Should you tell people that you blog?

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

I am a worrier. A big old worrier. So when I started my blog I started to worry about what people would think. I'm not a particularly self-conscious person but I would always rather just not be too controversial, nor put myself out there for too much criticism, so perhaps starting my blog and promoting it was a little out of my comfort zone. These are the questions I asked myself (and I imagine a number of other bloggers have too):

1) Do I tell people about my blog?
2) Will people judge me?
3) Should I just keep it a secret?

To be honest, I'm still asking myself these questions. 

For those who aren’t involved in the blogging or vlogging community (whether that is by reading/viewing or contributing) it is a pretty darn strange world. I know that a lot of my friends and family probably don’t get it. I still haven't openly spoken to a lot of friends and family about it as I don't quite know how to explain it to someone who doesn't know anything about this strange little portion of the internet. I remember my Mum coming into my room at home one day a few years ago when I was watching Zoe's vlogs and she asked me 'why on earth do you like watching what she does every day?'. I guess it is just a generational thing. Blogs and vlogs to me are like the modern day magazines and soaps, except better. These are people like me, and this is their real life.
I’m sure many of you have gone through this stage of wondering whether/when you should tell your friends about your blog. I have had a few blogs in the past where I’ve hidden under cringey aliases because I was worried how I’d be judged. I worried that old school mates would all sit around and laugh at my little blog. I wondered whether people who didn't know me would think I was just jumping on this sparkly bandwagon hoping to reach the dizzy heights of these huge bloggers and vloggers which they are only now just hearing about. I worried people would think I was a little self-obsessed thinking that someone would care about what I had to say and about my life.

I've realised that there was nothing to be worried or ashamed about. My blog is my little creative outlet and to be honest, it may only be two months old but I’m already blooming proud of it!  In my eyes it is no different than writing for a newspaper, taking part in a society or being a keen photographer. It's just a hobby which happens to need a little extra work called social media promotion. Why should I feel I should hide something that I spend a lot of time on and I am proud of? I came to the conclusion that if people did judge me for it then did I care about their opinion anyway? Probably not.

It's not all negative - a lot of my worries have luckily been proved wrong! I have had such positive feedback from really good friends, a lot of them even going as far as sharing my blog posts on their Twitter for me! It’s so nice to have people telling you they really like what you do and they think you should keep going.

So the answer to the answer to my first question is 'Yes!'. You should tell people you blog as that's the best way for your little blog to grow. If people don't like it then what do they matter. To the second question I'd also say 'Yes'. Unfortunately in life everything you do will get judged, all of us are guilty of judging at some point. However, you have to weigh up the judgement with how much you actually like what you are doing and just take the negative in your stride. And finally, should you keep your blog secret? This is obviously up to personal preference but I say 'No'. My favourite thing about reading blogs is connecting with the reader so being open and relatable in my eyes is the key to blogging! Unless you are going for a Gossip Girl-esque blog then yeah, maybe keep it secret!

I urge you all to be proud of yourselves and your content. You are putting your voice, creativity, thoughts and feelings out there and being brave enough to say look, I'm going to do this myself. I urge you all to push yourselves out that comfort zone and try and not care what other people think.
So really there’s nothing to hide… other than from my parents who totally don't get blogging. They are my next nut to crack.

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Did any of you have the same worries when you started blogging?

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55 comments

  1. That is such a great post! I always ask myself the same questions :) At the moment I have shown my blog to only a few of my friends, so I'm still not sure, but maybe one day :D
    Your blog is great by the way! xo

    EvelinaT
    evelinaat.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you so much! I'm glad someone else feels the same! Hopefully one day you can show your friends as your blog really is so beautiful!

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  2. Thank you for this. I still don't share posts on my personal page because I'm embarrassed....I think! My husband thinks I should be loud and proud about it. I think I'm in fear of people judging me but as you say, the people who matter know so what's the problem?!

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    1. Hello! Thank you so much for commenting! No I know how you feel. I share mine on my Twitter but I'm still too embarrassed/scared to share it on my personal Facebook too. Maybe after this post I'll be brave and do it! I think your husband is right - your content is great! I'm about to hop on over to your blog and leave a comment! Thanks again :)

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  3. At first its difficult to talk to people about my blog (even though I've been blogging since 2008!), especially people who are not into the blogsphere they find it so bizarre. The most frequent perception is that I post pictures of myself posing with different clothes..:/
    It takes some time to explain what I am doing and why I am doing it but I always feel better after I explaining to them :)
    Great article, thanks for sharing!xx

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    1. Ah wow! Thats so great you've been blogging for so long. I totally get you, it is such a weird world to try and explain. I'm glad people understand once you've told them about it! Maybe I should try and be more chatty about it to people and they might get used to the idea! Thanks so much for reading and commenting! xx

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  4. Phhhhewwwww! I'm not the only one who has these thoughts!
    I have told a couple of people about my blog but thats it... I actually find it really weird speaking about it in real life. I think a lot of it is to do with them not being "bloggy people". I lose hours of my life reading blogs and watching vlogs... im not sure this is something that happens to them!
    Maybe one day I will start to tell more people, but I am quite happy having like minded strangers reading my blog for now!
    I love your blog and I definitely think its something to be proud of :)

    Lindsay x

    http://linds-grace.blogspot.com

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    1. No no no you have me too who thinks the same haha! Yeah I totally agree. It's just that fear of people not understanding it! You're so right, at least we have all of us who understand this world eh? Thank you so much, it's so lovely to hear that! :)

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  5. Great post! I think we all ask ourselves those questions, but I love blogging.
    You have a lovely blog! x

    Laura | lauraslittleloves.com

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    1. Thank you! Exactly, our love for blogging tends to override these questions luckily. Ah that's so lovely of you, thank you. I love yours too!

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  6. I've had exactly all of those thoughts before! I still sometimes get a bit flushed and embarrassed when I say that I have a blog! x

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    1. Haha I'm right there with you! Hopefully we can get over that soon! x

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  7. My parents and parent-in-laws still ask me a ton of questions, because they can't wrap their mind around it. My friends are like, "Oh cool, what's your blog, I'll follow along!" and don't ask many questions about the blogging world. Be proud of what you do! Blogging is work, it really is! Don't hide it :)
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    Jenny // Mish Mosh Makeup

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    1. Yes maybe in the next few years it'll become totally normal and people will understand it better! I will try and remember that! Thanks for reading & commenting :) x

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  8. I most definitely had the same worries when I started blogging. Especially when my coworkers found it on my Facebook and started asking questions. A lot of them are way older than me (I'm 21, most of them are 30+) and they would speak to me about it in almost a mocking tone which made me uncomfortable. I don't criticism well at all, so it's been hard to put myself out there. But now I honestly don't care what anyone thinks and I encourage everyone I know to start their own or some other form of creative outlet. Since doing this I've helped about 5 friends start their own blogs!

    xo, Amanda | a. nicole style

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    1. Ugh I'm kind of worried my employers wouldn't be happy with me blogging as I've heard of some people in certain profession being asked to shut down their blogs before! Ah I'm so glad you've got to that stage and that's great you've introduced your friends to the blogging world! Now you can all natter on about it! xx

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  9. I think after time it becomes natural to share info about your blog, at first I was wary but now I don't care!

    Skin and Roses

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    1. Yey fantastic you've got to that stage! We should all be proud of our work!

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  10. Love it! It was so scary to come out of the "blogging closet" at first but so glad I did!

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    1. Thank you! Haha what an apt way of putting it! I'm glad you did too! x

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  11. Not many people know about mine, I don't talk about it much because I'm too scare too! Silly really. I don't even tell my husband!
    http://www.sweetwordsprettypictures.com

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    1. You should just gradually tell a handful of people and hopefully that'll make it easier! I kind of went in at the deep end by going straight on my personal social media!

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  12. I kept my blog under wraps for about a year. Back then I had a blog, but I didn't count myself as a blogger. I would post every now and then, and I didn't really know what my blog was about or why I was doing it. Once I sorted those questions out, and became more involved in reading other blogs then I slowly started promoting it a bit more. Some of my friends still don't really get it, but then I don't get why some of my friends are so into gaming or certain sports, so it doesn't bother me too much now.

    I think if you are proud of something, why not let the world know what you're doing? Stephie from Tea in your Twenties xx

    http://teainyourtwenties.com

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    1. It does take a while to become comfortable with it (I hope that will come soon!) but yes you're totally right! We all have different hobbies which we don't quite get! I love your blog! x

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  13. I think that if my blog was my business then I'd feel more comfortable in sharing it with everyone that I know, but because it's a hobby and just something that I love to do in my spare time I'm happy to just share it with a select few for now. Maybe one day it'll be different!

    The Comfy Jumper

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    1. Really good point! I don't see my blog as a business but I found it hard to take photos of things or want to write an idea down for a blog etc without people noticing and asking so I got found out pretty quickly haha! Do whatever makes you feel comfortable :) Thanks for commenting!

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  14. I was really scared to tell friends and family about my blog initially and it took me about 6 months before I started telling people. It is now somewhere that I feel proud of so I am not quite so self conscious about it.x

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    1. Totally understand! Yey good! I'm glad you're proud of it, you should be :)

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  15. I ask myself exactly the same questions. I've just started my blog after a lot of time spent thinking about whehter I should open it or not. I've decide to dive into this new experience and see how it goes, but I'm scared to tell people about it. I'm scared of what they will say about my little blog.
    So, for now I would keep it just for a few. Maybe when I will be more self-confident I will be able to share it with everybody.

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    1. Ah I'm glad you feel the same! I know it is scary, the majority of people are super nice about it though. Its more the misunderstanding I fear! Good luck on your blogging journey!

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  16. very interesting ! and I agree with all! :)
    even so I haven't tell my friends just yet about my blog ...but one day I will!

    http://allornothing-blog.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Whenever you feel comfortable I'm sure they'll be supportive!

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  17. Oh my gosh I know exactly how this feels! This is my third attempt at blogging now, I have dropped out before due to embarrassment mainly but I have vowed that this one MUST stick, and actually I am blogging under a nickname to emotionally detach myself from it a bit haha. Silly, but at least it makes me get it done!

    http://noranoraa.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Third time lucky hey? I was totally the same, I've had a few blogs in the past but I think at one point it just starts to feel right and you get to the point where doing what you love becomes more important than some silly little comments! Please stick to it!

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